Downsizing Discussion

Change means to make (someone or something) different; alter or modify. The meaning is straight forward yet it can cause a great deal of anxiety and stress for many people, especially older adults. Death, Divorce, Moving, Illness/Injury, and Job Loss are the five most significant changes affecting us today.

For older adults moving from their beloved home where they raised a family and went through life’s ups and downs can be traumatic. Not many of my clients’ loved one(s) are jumping for joy at the thought of packing up an entire lifetime of memories.

What can you say, or do to gain agreement that downsizing, and moving into a senior living environment is the best decision? Here are some pointers on what to discuss, and how to gain buy in. Remember to be prepared and look for the best time to have this conversation thus maximizing how the message is received.

Discuss the reason for considering senior living

• What problem (s) will a move solve? Will they be closer to you if they move?
• Will moving be safer than the current living arrangement? Discuss rules your parent(s) put in place for your health and safety growing up and this is much the same.
• Discuss making this decision while they are healthy and still able to understand all.

Ask Questions.

• What is their main concern about moving?
• Show them how to navigate through what will likely be a list of worries.

Tour.

• The best way to see yourself living somewhere new is to see it with your own eyes.
• Discuss how certain pieces of furniture would look in the new home etc.
• How would the amenity areas benefit their lifestyle?

Participate.

• Take advantage of invitations to attend an activity or entertainment. This is a great way to get a feel for the community and possibly meet some friends.

Give it Time.

• This conversation will likely be repeated over days, weeks, months, maybe years. Stay the course and just keep planting the seed.